I originally posted this mini-blog in last week’s Thirsty Thursday newsletter but I figured what the heck I should share this insight with you as a special December treat.
True Confession: My first job out of grad school was to teach college student’s how to make new friends and help them acclimate into their new college environment in the city that never sleeps.
How was this accomplished?
I planned and executed countless events and opportunity for college students to meet, talk and have fun. This meant mixers, life skills related workshops and trips to the museum and Broadway shows.
My life was full of icebreakers, small talk and chit-chat. Per my Facebook feed confirm there is 1 marriage and quite a few friends after college connection.
Here are a few nuggets that you can apply in your life on how to make new adult friends:
- Be the friend you want to hang out with. Simple if you are looking for drama-free experience then you gotta keep your own drama in check too.
- Look for events that you are interested in learning more about or its something that you enjoy doing! Examples: join a knitting circle, take a cooking class, running group, the possibilities are endless.
- When you go to the event remember to smile! Trust me a smile is a friendly invitation that you want to be there. It does make a difference.
- Go with an open mind and be open to new connections. Go ahead and ask questions about the other person. People love to talk about themselves.
- Actively listen to what the other person is saying. Be present to the conversation.
- If you feel a connection, follow up with a short and sweet email. Remember to detach yourself of the results/outcome.
Remember who you surround yourself does matter. Making new friends is a lifelong skill that will continue to expand not only your connection but also can lead to new opportunities.
Now it’s your turn, in the comments below feel free to share how you have made new friends?