True Confession: I’ve lived in Jersey City, NJ for almost 5 years before having friends in my neighborhood. Most of my friends lived and worked in NYC.
Then Sandy struck a year ago, and I found myself “stranded” in NJ for about a week with little to no interpersonal contact. In my gut, I knew I needed to change this as I quickly realized I wanted to stay in my neighborhood in the long run. Therefore, one of my 2013 personal intention was to make new adult friends in my town.
Over the past few months, I can happily share I have built a solid network of new friends and even local “work” at home colleagues that I can meet up at coffee shops to work together.
How I made it happen (and so can you)?
- I committed to find my “fitness” sanity local as opposed to staying in Manhattan. I found a local barre studio as well as a couple of fitness popup shops in my area. I met a couple of potential friends at classes.
- I reached out to people I felt I have something in common such as blogging, similar fitness interests, etc.
- I showed up to blogger meetups and female business owners event in the area. This was a big one for me in terms of building my neighborhood network
- I reconnected with former roommate who still live in the area for coffee meetups and dinners.
Where did I meet my “Jersey Friends”?
- Fitness classes
- Local blogger meetup
- Women’s Chamber of Commerce event
- Former roommates
How do I turn acquaintances into friendships?
There is no magic formula other than you have to be patient. Remember what we learned in grade school to make a friend you have to be a friend.
Making new friends takes time and requires patience, trust and being open. It is my choice to put myself out there which meant reaching out while surrendering the results.
Yes there were some friend dates that turned out to be duds but for the most part the outcome has been pretty good. My personal formula to reach out is via email/text and setting up a 1:1 “friend” date whether is for a fitness class or drinks, etc.
Question for YOU! In the comments below, please what are some of your go to strategies on how to build your “friend” network?