I have an amazing treat for you this morning as I asked my sorority sister, former client & friend Katherine to share her story as she took the leap of faith of following her dream to move to San Diego.
Tell us a little bit about yourself
My name is Katherine Hiraldo. I currently work as an Administrative Assistant, but I do so much more. I write, I consult, I sell, I hustle; I can do it all!
You grew up in NYC, attended college upstate and return to the city in your twenties, can you share a little bit of what it was like living in NYC. What were some of your personal challenges that you feel comfortable (jobs, weather, etc)?
I was born and raised in NYC (Manhattan). I was tied to New York because of my family, friends, memories, but the place itself didn’t have a hold on me.
A lot of people consider New York to be it for them since it has “everything”, but to me it didn’t have everything. In my opinion it lacks quality of life. I think in order to fully enjoy living in NYC you have to be rich or extremely poor (to live off of government benefits); there is really no middle ground or middle class. Everyone in between lives check to check (if they have a job) and that’s pretty much all there is to it.
Yes living there has a lot of perks but I’ve always known deep inside I wasn’t going to live my life fully by staying there.
Plus I hate being cold, so winters were horrible for me. The cold and darkness always put me in a bad mood. I’m a huge advocate for moving away from New York; I think it’s a great place to visit and be a tourist but I know other places have a better quality of life to offer, and that’s the most important for me.
Last year, you decided to move to San Diego, CA. What were some of the deciding factors when it came to choosing this city. Family? Friends? Potential Jobs?
I visited San Diego a few times before and always loved it. I’ve been to other states and countries, but there was always something calling me back to San Diego.
When I decided to move, it was a heart decision. It just felt right and so I had to go with it. It was the ray of hope I was missing.
I had no friends or family out here. I knew a few people, and have met some along the way, but I had nothing waiting for me here. I took a leap of faith. I knew it wouldn’t be an easy transition, but I had to try. I figured in the end if it didn’t work out I could always go back home. But thankfully everything worked out.
What tools and experiences help you not only make this decision but also take action?
My main deciding factor to move was the fact that I was so depressed in New York. By the time I decided to move I was desperate for a change.
I had been unemployed for about a year in New York and tried SO HARD to get a job. I tried EVERYTHING and had about 1 interview every 4-5 months. Nothing was changing and I didn’t know how to make it work for me. So I decided to make it work somewhere else. I thought of the one place that made me so happy and it was San Diego. The sun, the calm, comic-con =)
I was in such a dark place that I was either going to make some kind of change or I was going to give up completely. I pulled myself from the pit of despair with the hope and dreams of moving to California. The thoughts of sunshine and beaches helped me find the strength to take action.
Years before I had read “The Secret” and so I knew that the vision I had of living in San Diego was so strong that the Universe would make it all work out somehow. And it did.
Once I made the decision to move the next step was getting money for the move. I changed my job search tactic to only look for temporary jobs. Within 2 weeks from making the decision to move I got a temp job which would last until Thanksgiving (this was back in August 2012).
I promised myself to save up. I then made a list of all the things I needed and all the resources already in my possession.
Thankfully Laura had told me about the Magical Manifesters course offered by Erin Stutland, and so I took it a month after I started my temp job. The course really helped me take my plans to action steps.
I did some research on housing options. I was already somewhat familiar with the city of San Diego, so I started there with my search. Everything flowed so easily because my desire to move was stronger than any fear or doubt I had.
What advice would you share to someone who is on the fence of taking this big leap?
When it comes to any change, it’s a challenge. I think, in my opinion, you have to be in a state of mind to change, and that’s usually when you’re fed up with a situation.
Taking a leap of faith is like gambling and taking risks; you have to fully and wholeheartedly trust in the process of change.
You may be scared and have a ton of doubt, and that’s OK. If you’re scared it’s a good thing, it means you’re onto something big.
Your desire for a change has to overpower the fear. When you want something bad enough it will manifest itself. In my opinion if you have a desire for something but are too scared/doubtful to take action, then the desire is not big enough.
The best piece of advice I can offer you is to keep the desire bigger than anything else. Let your desire drown out all fear and negativity, not only from within but also from your friends/family/loved ones who are scared for you. Keep the desire alive and present; let it be with you always.
Vision boards are great tools to keep reminding yourself of your desire. For my San Diego desire I had “SAN DIEGO” written big and bold on my calendar. And every time I looked at my calendar it reminded me I was one day/one step closer to fulfilling my dream.